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So, where to begin?
You stumbled onto my blog page- maybe it was by accident or maybe it was intentional. You’re wondering who I am and what I’m all about; what my blog stands for and why it was created.
Purposeful mothering was created with the bare-bone idea that mothering doesn’t always have to be a free fall and headfirst dive into parenting. What if it wasn’t just a walk in the dark, feeling your way around and wondering what’s next? What if parenting was meant to be experienced with purpose and intent?
Purposeful means having a purpose that is meaningful and intentional. I’ll admit, motherhood isn’t a cakewalk. And it’s definitely not a straight path with a sign at the end that says-
No, motherhood is like being thrown into a pack of hungry, snarling wolves; you know what you’re about to face and have accepted it, but don’t know how it’s going to feel. I remember the day my daughter was born. The pain and determination I felt while laboring, the anticipation and adrenaline rush of the final push. And then the moment she was placed into my arms was when I bawled like a baby. Everything was great at first, until the initial rush wore off. Later that night, whether from the pregnancy hormones leaving my body, or the sudden change my life had experienced, I cried until I couldn’t anymore. And I remember telling myself that I couldn’t do this, I couldn’t raise this baby. My husband was in an entire different state of mind and couldn’t understand what I was going through. And for those next few days in the hospital, I cried when no one was looking. I even cried when I was able to take my first shower because I didn’t want to come back out and face reality.
My daughter was going to change my life forever and things between my husband and I would never be the same again.
I couldn’t get those thoughts out of my head. I left the hospital with mixed emotions, wondering if I was going to make it through this new stage of my life- our lives.
Friends, I know you hear me and I hear you too. We’ve all been there and some of us may not be there yet. This journey of being a mother isn’t as glamorous and painted over like the movies portray it to be; the reality is we usually end up wearing our child’s snot and puke on our clothes by the end of the day. We wake up in the mornings with dark bags under our eyes and a cup of coffee in hand (extra caffeine, please!). But despite all of the curve balls we face and stress we endure, motherhood is purposeful! It is ever present and filled with intention- just as we are to be with our children.
I’m not saying you have to be with your child 100% of the day and solely focus on their needs instead of yours.
I can’t even be around my children more than 80% of the day without needing a mommy break. But mothering can be driven towards a goal, and that by being present and there with our children during the mundane every day, we can fulfill that goal. Motherhood doesn’t need to be just surviving and getting through each day (although sometimes this is an absolute necessity). If we can plan out our days, weeks, months and find ourselves not distracted and away from our children while we are with them, then we allow ourselves to be intentional and deliberate. We are focusing on what we want to get out of parenting and what we want our children to get out of it, too.
This blog is going be about everything parenting- tips, tricks, lifestyle, crafting, meals for the family, you name it. By simply reading this article and visiting my blog, you are being purposeful and intentional with your actions and have taken the step in wanting to be a part of something greater. Way to go, mama. Seriously.
Some questions I want you to think about-
What do I want to get out of motherhood?
What do I want my children to get out of their childhood?
Am I living freely and enjoying parenting or just simply getting through each day?
I hope that through this blog and journey of getting to know you and your lives, that we can both grow as mothers and relate to one another. I’ve found that the one thing I can count on to keep me motivated is taking the time to invest in friendships with other moms. Relating to one another is a sure-fire way to know you are sane and that what you are experiencing is normal (because I promise, it is).